Option 03 · The Heavy Days
The Heavy Days One-on-One Advanced Intensive
An exclusive 4-day, 3-night retreat built around one man: you. On your schedule, at your depth, with nobody else there.
The spec
One man. Just you and me.
4 days · 3 nights
On your schedule
Santa Cruz, CA
The logistics
- 4 days · 3 nights
- Picked together after our call
- Under the stars or luxury glamping dome
- All catered
- One month of coaching after
- $10,000
What's involved
- BeforeA call first. After our call, we pick your arrival date and your departure date. This runs on your schedule, not a calendar.
- MorningsRise with the sun. Sauna, cold plunge, and a morning routine you'll want to take home with you.
- TrainingMultiple training sessions a day. Your defaults show up under load; we use that.
- The workPersonal development work, one-on-one with me, going extremely deep. No group to hide inside.
- Solo adventurePlenty of you-time with no distractions. Space to be alone with what comes up.
- NightsSleep under the stars, or in the luxury glamping dome with a full bed. Your call.
- FoodAll meals catered and delicious. You won't lift a finger.
- AfterOne month of coaching included. The work doesn't end when you drive away.
What you leave with
- ·Four days of undivided, one-on-one work on the thing that actually matters.
- ·A morning routine built around sun, sauna and cold plunge, plus the habit to keep it.
- ·The strength and clarity that come from multiple training sessions a day.
- ·One month of coaching after you leave, so the change sticks.
This is for you if
- ·You want to go extremely deep and don't want a group around it.
- ·You need it to fit your schedule, not the other way round.
- ·You want real solitude: adventure and quiet with no distractions.
It isn't for you if
- ·Someone looking for therapy or a diagnosis. I'm a coach, not a clinician.
- ·A man who wants a vacation more than he wants the work.
“If you asked ChatGPT to write you a description of a coach's coach, it would just return a picture of Pat Barber. I've worked with Pat for over 15 years and never cease to be amazed by his technical abilities, but more importantly his compassion and empathy.”
Dr. Kelly Starrett · Performance coach & physio · Co-founder of The Ready State · 3× NYT best-selling author
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