Option 01 · The Heavy Days
The Heavy Days Brotherhood Retreat
4 days to reset, refocus and return stronger. Travel in on a Thursday, leave on Sunday.
The spec
The logistics
- 2026 dates complete
- 5-acre mountain property, Santa Cruz, CA
- In Thursday, out Sunday
- Left behind
- Join the waiting list
What's involved
- JournalingJournaling that forces honesty. Mostly with yourself.
- ForgeForging, wayfinding, discomfort, comfort, guidance. A few manly things to wake you up.
- StarsSleeping under the stars.
- FeelLearn to feel a bit. Don't worry, it won't be too woo woo.
- StressGuided and contained physical and mental stress to help you feel more capable.
- The good stuffFire, sauna, cold plunge.
- FoodEat amazing food.
What you leave with
- ·A clear vision of the man you want to be.
- ·Strength in your body and clarity in your mind.
- ·Brothers who have your back.
- ·Energy and presence your family will feel the moment you walk in the door.
This is for you if
- ·You feel buried by responsibility.
- ·You want to unplug and remember who the hell you are.
- ·You want to show up stronger, calmer, more present at home.
It isn't for you if
- ·A man looking for another self-help hack.
- ·Anyone who wants a luxury weekend instead of a reset.
“Pat created exactly what so many fathers need: space to step away from the noise, be challenged, and come home more grounded.”
Derek Fons · Group retreat
“During my time at the retreat, I saw lives change irrevocably for the better, including mine. I cannot recommend this highly enough. Every father, hell, every man, should go on this retreat.”
Billy Brown · Group retreat
“While this is the first retreat I have been on, I would be shocked to find another that makes better use of the time. If you are on the fence, or even just considering this, please go!”
Frank Altomare · Group retreat
“For a few days, I traded notifications, meetings, and responsibilities for mountains, silence, physical challenge, incredible food, and honest conversations with a group of men who all shared one thing in common: a desire to show up better for the people who matter most.”
Ryan Callahan · Group retreat
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Helping fathers become
harder to kill, easier to love
& more free to live